Sometimes you see the strangest things walking down the street and they can be very odd and very moving. I came upon this scene last week and knew I wanted to photograph it, but wasn’t sure what the significance was for me, until now.
I’m not good at asking for help. Too often being disappointed or let down (I know, tragic) has left me independent to a fault. I have learned though, that not everyone will disappoint me, not everyone will let me down, and occasionally, people will impress the heck out of me. I am grateful to those people and for those lessons. I beat myself up all too often for taking on too much, for not saying “no” enough, for trying to please too many people, usually at my own sacrifice. It’s almost like a hobby, and not a productive one at that. Then I came across this tiny little doll arm in the street. It got me to thinking about the rest of the doll. Where was it? Who had it? Was the doll-keeper sad about losing the arm? I had a vision about the doll being thrown away because it was deemed useless since it was missing an arm. That vision made me angry. The doll without an arm, is still a doll. She can still be dressed, and “fed,” and cared for and even played with. Just because it is missing an arm doesn’t make it any less of a doll. Just as asking for help doesn’t make us any less of a person. Aha! There’s the big epiphany you were waiting for and the one that took a while to get to me. Sometimes true power comes not from doing it all yourself, but rather from asking for help to get it done. I will make an effort to ask for help more often. I will make an effort to receive help when offered. In those moments where it all starts to become a bit much, I will use my Totem and my Totem Tamers Tools to help keep me calm. You should too!
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